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Lights turned low, music crescendo as they are re-acquainted with one another; blankets covering up just enough. The screen blinks and they are sprawled out on the California King, happy, sated, and Wait a minute…. Where is this magical place with no talk of lube, no silly sounds coming from who knows where, and music that hits the high note at exactly the right spot?
Here are our favorite four ways to shake off the red carpet expectations; so sex with you and your partner can be a smooth transition back-even without the specially curated soundtrack. Planning Ahead. Where are the kids? If you have children, plan ahead of time for creating space for you and your partner to connect and have sex. Your children will be missing your spouse as well, so plan accordingly.
Another mom tells her children her husband came home a day later than he did, and they proceeded to go to a hotel to connect in style-as she arranged a sitter for the. Speaking of children Sex after deployment you or your partner on birth control? What are you using?
Whether you are trying for or wanting to stay child-free; know whether a condom, diaphragm, sponge or other item needs to be used during sex is important. If you have stopped taking birth control while your partner was away, make sure that you started taking it again before they return. If you are not looking to add Sex after deployment new member to your family at this time, and just got back on the pill last week, be safe and use a condom.
For some, it may seem odd to talk about communication in the bedroom. What do we have to talk about? Sex conversations can feel awkward, or hard and not in a good way. Many women were taught growing up to not talk about vaginas, periods, or to think about sex.
Men were told to want it often. Create space to chat about expectations.
When they get home, try going out to eat just the two of you, or get a pizza and go to a park. Flights back from deployments can be long and draining. As fantastic and itchy as your new lacy underwear might be, your partner might not be in the mood for sex and this is okay. Sex can mean so many things outside of just intercourse. The same pressure we place on ourselves to have that perfect reunion can make it fall apart at the seams. Over the course of a year, 6 months, or even a few weeks, it can become clear on what you, or your spouse may be longing for.
A great way to start the conversation is to create a list of things you love in the bedroom before they come home and to share it with them.
In the heat of the moment you may go along with an idea, but secretly be fretting inside if you are good enough, or if they still like you. Be honest. Be kind to yourself and your partner by speaking up. Cue the Mood Lighting. Being in the right mindset can help sex feel smoother.
Create a playlist you love. You could even both have added songs throughout your time apart that made you long for one another. Some see this as an appetizer to your dinner, but think of it as your first few bites of your favorite meal. Massaging, cuddling, and using hands to explore one another can set the tone for what is to come.
You have to create a relaxing atmosphere and smooth sailing. Vaginal dryness can occur because of alcohol, stress, food, exercise, medicine, time of the month, age, and more. This belief creates shame, painful sex, and can do long term damage to your vaginal walls.
There is NO SHAME in asking for more lube; if Sex after deployment love has been gone for a minute it may take time to warm up, and lube can help you feel ready. I recommend water-based lubes, as they do not stain, and are safe to use with condoms, toys and are generally safe for those with sensitive skin. Wait a week. Your first time back, give yourselves grace to be and have fun together. AJ sparks imagination and joy through art, entertainment, and events with her business In Joy Productions.
As a military spouse, she creates sacred spaces for women to flourish through Red Tents, retreats, and soul art workshops. Facilitating conversations in engaging ways, she helps women move, totally embodied, through to world- allowing them to show up for themselves and others. Her heart is to change the traditions and stories we pass down to the next generation by creating brave spaces to share about womanhood, in all its phases.
She lives in San Antonio, TX, with her husband Jeremy, two pups, a peace lily, and a bucket full of glitter for emergencies. Connect with AJ at www. We invite you to us in creating a paradigm shift within the military spouse culture. We want to be at the forefront of creating a movement within our community that trades comparison for compassion. We want to replace the negativity that surrounds the MilSpouse culture with a positive image of personal fulfillment and success. We can be a group that raises each other up, building strong leaders Sex after deployment supporting new ideals.
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